Written by April Mae Casida (PoP’s Website and Media Assistant)
The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows.
This is a phrase that you probably have heard a million times already. But this is what reality is. In every bad, there is something good. In the darkness, there is a light waiting to cast upon us. That is how the world keeps its balance.
Challenges will always come our way, whether we like it not. Sometimes we win, and sometimes we lose. Winning is a milestone -- a moment of joy, success, and triumph. But losing is another story.
Losing makes us vulnerable. It opens different emotions in us that we didn’t even know was there. If we are not prepared enough to go through and overcome these battles, it often steals something from us. For some, it may be self-esteem, for others it is self-worth, and for most of us, it is self-confidence.
We tend to questions ourselves as to where we went wrong, what do we lack, or what we could have done instead. The list goes on and on until we start doubting ourselves of what we are capable of. People stop trying. People start losing hope.
But hey! Here’s something you need to know.
You can always pick yourself up and start again. Easier said than done, right? So let me guide you with some thoughts you can ponder to get yourself going again.
Acknowledge Your Feelings
You have to acknowledge yourself of the negative emotions you are feeling. Feel the feeling of defeat and of loss. Let it get through you. You are a human, and it’s natural to experience those kinds of things.
It is when you begin to accept that you are the lowest point that you can start standing up again. And you are already at your lowest, so there is no way but to go but up. Cheer up!
Reach Out To Those People Who Believe the Most in You
Do not bottle out your feelings. Your burdens will be lifted if you have someone to share it with.
Talk to your family and your trusted friends. They will always be your biggest cheerleaders. They will definitely support you in whatever you do. Sometimes, we need a little push to get started. I bet they don’t mind doing this for you!
Recall Your Past Wins
Don’t let your failures invalidate your wins. Remember all of your accomplishments, even it felt invaluable for you. Passed your job interview? Check! Cooked something for the first time? Check! Traveled alone in a foreign country? Check!
An accomplishment, whether big or small, is still a win. This is to remind you that you are not your failures, and you are capable of winning. So go and keep winning again!
Write Down Your Goals
At this point, you will start thinking of the things you need to do to start. There will be lots of ideas that will come into your mind, and I suggest that you write it all down.
Get a pen and notebook and list down all the ideas inside your pretty mind. By listing down your goals, you free your mind of unnecessary thoughts. You will be able to think clearly and be able to prioritize the things that you must do to start.
Understand that good thing take time
This might sound a broken record, but patience is a virtue. We become too impatient that we immediately want to see the end result.
Remember that a good thing takes time. It will require patience and perseverance to win again. Respect your own phase and avoid comparing yourself with others.
Some things will take time but remember that hard work won’t betray you. So keep going.
Challenges are given to strengthen us, to make us a better version of ourselves. There are times that we will stumble and fall, and there’s nothing we can do about that. We just have to dust off our clothes and pick ourselves again.
Believe in yourself. There is nothing you can’t do if you trust what you are capable of doing. There is no winning without failing. Try and try and try.
Enjoy the journey, and good things will surely come your way again. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You got this!